Marriage for me

 

 

Amen. So often today, we run at the first problem, first difficulty, first tragedy and very very often what is broken can be fixed with time and work and communication. If we are sick we don’t stop seeing a Dr. We keep seeing them until we are well. There have been times in my marriage to Ronald Turner where it would have been very easy for us not to. Keep working at it or stop trying to fix the broken spot but we chose to value the covenant we made before God. 

God forgives us everything but in our humanity we can’t forgive one another. A wise woman Bert Jennings once said (paraphrased here), “we have never been out of love at the same time.” And as she says she has been married forever. We need to stop worrying about pride, ego, hurt feelings and more about the person we vowed to be with. 

And before anyone jumps at me, yes if there is abuse of any kind (Physical, mental, emotional, sexual, addictions)sometimes you have to go your separate ways. Sometimes sadly divorce happens but I would hope that it would happen after several tries.  And yes I have been divorced before and yes we tried counseling. The extent of our tragedy was greater than our love. He and I remain friends and I think highly of him and he is a great Daddy to our boys. He married his true love and they have been together 21 years and I found mine and have been with him 20 years and counting.

Love is the hardest thing in the world to comprehend and we try to make it the easiest emotion we have. Love comes in all shapes and sizes. I myself have a husband who won’t let me quit and won’t quit on me.  Since my stroke I have said to him, “you would be better off with a whole woman.” And he says, “I have you.”